Mental Health, Mindfulness

Healthy – What Does That Really Mean?

Feb 23, 2017

I created this blog for the woman who longs to have a healthy, fulfilling lifestyle.

My hope is that it’s a judgement-free place for her to explore with a morning cup of tea…..(or strong coffee – whatever she likes).

A part of becoming “healthy” though is knowing what that word really means.

At least to me. Others’ definitions may vary depending on their environment, genetics, or culture.

I’ve broken my “healthy” scale into 5 categories that I consistently re-evaluate in myself:

  1. Spiritual: prayer, devotional, worship, quiet time, church
  2. Physical: nutrition control, exercise (anaerobic and aerobic with weights and cardio), sleep
  3. Mental: introspection, being open to change, being self-aware, staying positive, seeking help when I need it, taking responsibility for my life
  4. Social: building my marriage, cultivating mother/daughter relationship, maintaining family/friends, community with church small group, welcoming new people into my life, networking
  5. Interests and hobbies: I maintain an activity I enjoyed doing before I had Audri (for me it’s jazz dancing – but that will look differently based on the person). It could be reading, biking, scrapbooking, yoga, etc. If you don’t have a hobby – try new things to see what you like and don’t like.

I don’t accomplish each of these every single day. I have to strategically plan and sprinkle these throughout my life to keep me energized, sane, and healthy. I won’t go into specific detail about how I nurture relationships, what activities I do with my daughters, or what all of my hobbies are, because that’s irrelevant right now. Each individual is different.

I do believe what’s key in cultivating a healthy life for all of us is consistency and a plan.

For instance, if I don’t sit down and prioritize each of these areas into my schedule, I’m living a reactive life instead of a proactive life. And it took me a second to figure this out, because I would get so busy and one day realize that I’d neglected catching up with any of my friends for a few weeks. That’s not healthy. A girl’s gotta have support and love from her girlfriends…

So, intentionality is vital to healthy living. I’ve finally figured out a schedule that keeps our family healthy in between the daily work grind:

  • A date with my husband every other Saturday night 
  • Hours of uninterrupted time with my children daily
  • Church on Sunday as a family
  • Ladies’ group one morning or evening per month
  • Jazz class one night per week
  • Quality time with my friends and my parents are always worked in once per month
  • Business events scheduled in advance

Being healthy is a process and I definitely don’t have it figured out. I simply try to follow my instincts. For example, daily bible reading and quiet time with God is something I crave and aim for. I fail, of course, but I look forward to this daily date. My body/mind knows when something isn’t right, and that’s usually triggered because I’m neglecting one of these core areas for too long. Sure enough, once I nurture that area, I always end up feeling great! Being on a schedule, living with intentionality, and continually learning myself, allows me to really design the kind-of healthy life I love.

Feb 23, 2017 | Mental Health, Mindfulness


  1. Bryan

    That is just fantastic. It seems so simple, but for some reason I lose sight of it so often. Great, great post.

    1. VeiledFree

      Aww thank you, Bryan! It’s very easy to lose sight of!

  2. Sherry

    Awesome write-up. This article actually resonates with me. I love the emphasis on the 5 categories used to evaluate /re-evaluate ones life ( that is spiritual,social,mental,physical and interest/hobbies). Nice One!

    1. VeiledFree

      I’m so glad it resonated with you, Sherry! Thanks for stopping by!

  3. KATE

    I strongly agree with your views on intentionality being vital to healthy living.

    For me being healthy means I have to try as much as possible to strike a balance in the different areas of my life (spiritual,mental,physical etc).Great write-up… Thanks!

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